Re: Dear Zindagi

Last night I watched an year old movie Dear Zindagi. It's a good movie and I would recommend you if you are reading this to watch it as well. The director of the movie did an excellent job as in her past films and earned a token of praise from the viewers.

My review is as follows.

1. Direction 10/10
2. Screenplay 9/10
3. Story and plot 8/10

 Maybe you have watched it already. After watching the movie, you will realize that the main character has a lot of similarities and insecurities like you have in your life and personality.

Also, I learned that the way psychologist treats his patient. I have experienced similar approach from another well know behavior analyst as well. This brings me to the conclusion, people just preach what they read and believe rather bringing something innovative in their thinking.

Now you can go and figure out what characteristics and insecurities you have which the character in the movie also portrayed. 

Influence express itself in different ways

Couple of years ago a Bollywood movie Kal Ho Na Ho was released. It was considered a huge block buster and it did well business both for celebrities and for the viewers + investors too.

In addition the movie left its influence on youth as well. Some youth who have no ambitions of their own (:D)  they got inspired by the movie and followed and imitated the movie in different ways. That's how influence expresses itself in the minds of the youth as well.

For example some young girls started wearing glasses like the actress in the movie as well.

Well, everyone has their own life to live and get influenced independently 

Re: Using Convenient Mix for Cooking

I have a question on my mind. The question goes like this. How do we measure the cooking skills of a person in today's day and age. Using convenient mix to cook specialty dishes such as cake, or baking chicken, turkey etc. does that count?
Even if people do not know how to make one with original preparation and handwork.

I think the answer is simple with the industrialization and advent nuclear family concept. Lives have become so busy and soft. Industry sectors have taken full advantage of this state of the society and have offered the convenience of cooking food or semi-cooked food.

They know the behavior of consumer. The joy you get by cooking a dish is actually the same as the joy you get as a result of working hard.  The consumer feels happy even by mixing the cake mix or baking the meat, virtually feeling as if they did the complete job.

 It is acceptable as at the end of the day consumers are happy for the convenience and manufactures are happy that their product is improving the lives of consumers.

The point to consider is: Is there an irony here?

Re: Winter Weather Shoe Swag

Some people are obsessed with shoes, they want to feel #rugged #empowered #unique
People can have different ways

Such as doing Yoga
Meditation
Showing their obsession with Twitter
Drinking lots of tea
Etc.
Etc.


One way to show winter weather swag is by showing fancy boots. This can also be one of the way struggling international students with high hopes, aspirations and lots of responsibilities to themselves, families and society can do. They can get their high by showing their boot game.

I think that is a good outlet to feel empowered in a little way. #ShoeSwag

Raindrops

 Someone introduced me to this song and the movie as well. They claimed it was one of their favorites. So I thought to enjoy the song once again.

Re: Motivation

The society wants you to act a certain way. They want you to fit the norm which is called consistency so that they can trust you and consider you as a reliable person. I get that and  that's how we are all trained to think in a certain way.

We are trained to put people in boxes such as:

He is sincere.
She is careful.
He is mad.
She is pretty.
He is so bad person etc. etc.

When we don't find fault in someone's​ behavior we tend to find a fault in character or our personal experience with that person.

I wish I was created as a saint with DNA of an Angel. Maybe Almighty Has some other plans for me.
I struggle to prioritize.,...... to fulfill the plans of the one who created me or to please People who think my inconsistency​ aggravates them.

If you are reading this #YouBeTheJudge

Re: Watch the art work

Rather than throwing dirt at people and trying to prove that they are mentally ill. Some people need to take a chill pill and enjoy Casey Neistat's videos. How many challenges life has thrown at him but he is always facing them rather than avoiding them or throwing dirt at people.

Watch in this sequence as 1, 2 and 3 and relax rather than keeping grudges in your heart.


1. A Love Story 8 Years in the Making


2. My Girlfriend Candice


3. She's not my Girlfriend Anymore

Movie 1: 

Movie 2: 

Movie 3: 

Re: Personal right and Personal Desire

People have confused their personal desire with love. What is Love? Love is the act of sacrifice what you would do for someone in need. If you love someone you don't do the same things they don't want you to do.  Some people think they can exercise their personal human right to call anyone at any time. At they same time they can call they love them. In short they just want to live life on their own terms without understanding the context. Everyone has right to follow their intuition. However following and doing acts to make yourself feel better to proof yourself that you are offering empowerment to others by calling them while claiming your love for others is a selfish act.
It is true in order to be selfless one has to be selfish first. However, the first person who gets run over by your selfish act will never see your self-less acts because it was for your own favor alone.

Re: Happiness

Our brain is a comparator it keeps on comparing all the time. If other people seem to be happier than you, it will declare that you are unhappy and vice versa. The real question to ask is what is happiness? Is it a certain state of mind or feeling of getting fulfilled by the things we desire? Behavioral research shows that people who have money are happier on average than people who are poor.  Is that indicative of people who have money are more authoritative in terms of getting things done or buying them which will make them happy? Maybe so.

So next time, when someone tells you 'Moral of the story is: We are never happy when others are happy. " You need to tell them to make enough money to get the things you want in life. When more happiness is not bad, then why more money is considered bad in the society? Because that's how people are trained in a wrong mindset. 

A special prize for who guess it?

I have a special prize for anyone who can tell me the significance of this TED talk. Everyone has a right to speak their voice I thought was it a witty talk or TED talk or anything else?

Who can guess?

What's your Definition?

"It makes me puke first, then laughs then kill myself when I see people around me playing the victim card one way or the other. Sometimes on social media, then on Twitter, then on LinkedIn, later on, Instagram and on and on...."

Yes, those were my thoughts couple of years ago...when I did not have a clue why people do the things they do or the way they do it. With time and again + getting older I have realized its no one else's fault if you are not getting the results you want out of life. I used to blame other people and yes I agree we all have influences in our lives and choices we make about giving someone the ability and power to do those things to us.
In hindsight, if you are reading this and struggling with the same. I think following are the reasons why people don't get what they want from their circumstances.


1- Your words don't map to your actions:
People can say all things to themselves, they can tell how awesome and dedicated they are. How other people have played them. They would never go down to admit that their words would never map to their actions. I am a culprit of not going after my word and taking action on it. When our actions start mapping according to what we say to ourselves and what we believe in our heart. Something amazing starts to happen which is called success.

2- Your desire to have Downward and Upward social comparison:
Ever wondered why people like reality TV and movies?  It could be a number of factors escapism, time pass, food for thought etc. One of the reason is as psychologists say we like to have a downward social comparison when people do bad things or make mistakes and we conveniently tell ourselves, " Oh that is so dumb. I would never do that etc. etc. ". It is easy to feel bad for someone in other parts of the world and criticize the politicians or the system, as its all very convenient to Tweet about it. But the question we should ask ourselves is. Am I ready to be in the shoes of this leader or this president etc?

3- Your Definition of Love

A lot of people complain about not getting the results they want to have in their love life. When you ask them to define love. They are speechless because they don't know. They just want to follow the crowds with herd mentality and feel better in society.
If your definition of love is.
Love = Desire of being desirable?
You are doing it all wrong.  It's easy to get influenced by movies such as NoteBook or all the escapism and Titanic romance which is sold in the world. If that's what anyone wants to do with their that's great. All good for them.
However, when the same person gets up so wrapped in their claim that they love someone no matter what and ends up treason them. They even attempt all kinds of defaming or punishing tactics to people they claim they love when they don't achieve worldly success as they have seen in movies. in eyes of the world. The reality and real motive of their influence and fluffy ideals in life become evident. 

4- You think your current circumstances are not favorable to you


I don't feel there is a need to explain point # 4. However, the above views are a reinforcement for me to analyze my own behavior. Map my actions to my words and not to complain.  That is the only way to improve oneself and go-forward.  We live in a world where ambitions are given much more respect and weight than the results and real execution. However the later is the real truth which bring results.

Holier than Thou

Some people are so self-wrapped in their righteousness that they keep on blaming other individuals as if they are so disturbed on account of someone else's cheating and other ugly behaviors. On the other hand, they keep judgment, hypocrisy and lie and doing all kinds of hanky-panky such as calling other people even when they should not and trying to do things behind the back when they know that those things are going to cause conflicts. Its easy to play victim card. It is very very easy to throw a tantrum and behave as all the unjust in the word has been done to you. It is easy to call that men are bad in the world and you are #speechless
But you know what is the most important thing in the world? The most important thing in the world is to admit that it can be your fault as well. It can be your own habits as well. But it takes guts and courage to look at yourself in the mirror and at your own habits which apparently may seem naive and non-threating but can be really bizarre. However, it easy to act, " Holier than thou" and point fingers at other and keep on playing a victim. 

Endorphin Boost

Lesson to self....Learn to get endorphin boost by working out, running or getting active rather than sharing your life on social media Twitter, LinkedIn, Insta etc.

Endorphin rush received the proper way will help people retain happiness and satisfaction longer.

Re: Guilty me or Guilty them!!

Just read a partial traumatic incident from someone who experienced harassment first hand. I would feel sad and sorry about the experience they had to go through. However, who is to blame for the experience?
I think a natural human response is to feel victimized and blame the society on training your mindset and mentality. On another note, blaming the person doing this seems to be a plausible action as well.

All in all, some people assume they know better about the nature of people and their behavior than others. They consider themselves smart by reading and studying behavior academically. Does it help in judging a person in real life as well?
 However, having a better emotional IQ and social awareness goes a long way in judging a person in one sitting and one go rather than experiencing these incidents + sharing what happened to you with rest of the world ---all for the sake of attention and sympathies so that you can console yourself how bad people are out there in the world and how innocent and naive you are yourself?

What happens to someone for the first time is naiveness you are not to be blamed, however, if the same incident happens a second time it is your own mistake to let it happen again and own it.

El Adobe Mexican Grill

Tonight I traveled to Dallas from Tulsa to attend a business offering and suppliers networking event. I applied for the event last year and forgot. Then I got reminded of it in summer to apply again to be included for an official invite-only exclusive email to come and meet in order show my agency (your) expertise in terms of what can you offer as a company to big players such as Cisco, AT&T, PepsiCo, Ericsson Etc.

I have never been to such an even before nor did I expect to recieve an invite. But for some reason I did , not sure how. So in a rush to reach here. I had to get a couple of portfolio printouts and my offering documents included to be printed last night.

The event will include 400-500 people all across the globe coming to tell corporates that they can offer the same quality and better margins to be chosen as the official supplier for these big corporates.
I am paralyzed at the thought of what to say about my a 1- person agency offering :|  :(

I felt desperate and paralyzed this morning where I could not feel positive about myself. But still, I am taking a chance. I am more thinking about the opportunity and sunk costs which I may have to deal with if nothing positive comes out of it.

After driving 4+ hours back to Dallas, on the way I stopped at a famous little place where I stopped for the first time on my way to AABA conference in Chicago.

What was that place? See it yourself..

Last time with a "companion" salsa was more chunky and tortilla chips were hot and tasty. Tonight chips were cold and Salsa was still the same.

When life is cold and circumstances around you are putting you down. You just have to accept it and keep pushing forward. Even though the tortilla chips are stale and the food did not taste the same.......don't see the hope of getting a contract but I am still pushing on to get myself out of this spiral to get the resources which can help me to get back on my feet and then get back to the same place with the same companion and get warm tortilla and chunky salsa + with the same companion on way to another AABA conference and another long drive one day. I hope one day or maybe it becomes a fiction if not reality.