Friday, August 31, 2018
Monday, July 23, 2018
Today will be Litmus Test
Tonight will be the test for my mind and brain.
I am going to Newark airport and the same surroundings and familiar vicinty will come back in my brain. The anchoring will play it's role. However I think this time it will be okay and not extreme push back because I know this already and it's for the betterment of all.
Saturday, July 21, 2018
This 'Sher' is Deep.
Hum Dua Likhtay Rahay, Woh Dagha Parthay Rahay
Ik Nuktay nay Humain Mehram say Mujhram Kar Diya
Sunday, July 8, 2018
Weeky Gratitude July 02-09, 2018
MONDAY, TUESDAY, WEDNESDAY, THURSDAY and FRIDAY.
This week has been head over heels and all the time in managing things to furnish and trying to drink from the fire hose. Things are going to calm down eventually. Thanks to Ms. JH for helping out and taking big step in unpacking stuff. The investment already started to work out but management part has increased. So much laziness has come over me to do basic accountability chores and accounting chores. My sleep needs to get better to be more productive. I am writing it down now. This week will be better.
This week has been head over heels and all the time in managing things to furnish and trying to drink from the fire hose. Things are going to calm down eventually. Thanks to Ms. JH for helping out and taking big step in unpacking stuff. The investment already started to work out but management part has increased. So much laziness has come over me to do basic accountability chores and accounting chores. My sleep needs to get better to be more productive. I am writing it down now. This week will be better.
Sunday, July 1, 2018
Weekly Gratitude June 25-July 01,2018
This week was not a lot occupied at start but got overloaded in the middle at the end was way too much.
My observation about my lack of consistency is that I don't document things and I don't buy accountability. Putting things locking down in my calendar and buying accountability can push me through and I can get more done rather than sitting alone in my place and watching YouTube instead of doing work.
Secondly venturing out to coffee shops can help me do remote work but then after some hours that coffee shop soon becomes boring so I need to venture out to new coffee shops. I can do that.
Enough of said and analysis done. Time to do some more things now. GAME ON.
MONDAY
- Started the week with usual false promises to myself that I will wake up and go for a run but when you sleep at 3 am how can you wake up at 6 am and go for a run as well? :(
- If you start out your day in bed with a smartphone next to yourself, you are bound to get your life out of control. Monday was spent in responding to emails and work commitments upon waking up.
- No miracles on Monday but was another reminder that will power is limited and systems and psychology always win.
TUESDAY
- Tuesday was supposed to be a busy day and specially for getting ready to prepare for Wednesday.
- Tuesday I started another renovation project as well in the current habitat, trying to envision another private entrance bedroom suite, currently it will cost me around $5000+ :( for see it happening but since I have been wondering about it for years. It is better to get it done.
- In order to overcome the inconvenience, present guests were going through I did the right thing and paid them back for their stay...for sure they appreciated the right thing done to them. :)
- Tuesday was PUSH day so I am glad at least I am getting back in routine and getting a better shape for myself or others. :|
- As I was on PTO on Wednesday so I had to catch up on a lot of emails and other work to be finished before I could take the day off.
- At the end of the day I realized that what is not set in stone on calendar never gets done. Anyways I powered through the day in order to get ready for a new beginning in my life on Wednesday.
WEDNESDAY
- This past Wednesday was supposed to be a validation Wednesday because I got the official opportunity to teach and train at world's largest organization of technical professionals
- This platform alone has brought a lot more opportunities to me already, thanks to Almighty.
- People who were skeptical of me reached out themselves as I could see the principles of persuasion working in the form of social proof already.
- I am supposed to be the least educated person on this platform but still I am rubbing shoulders with other top notch researches :| :O , Kind of unbelievable, all His Grace and mercy.
- The class went well and got done with celebration as well for this opportunity. Thanks to my NEW GAME getting better and new people I am meeting.
THURSDAY
- Thursday was another day to catch up on regular work routines and pending tasks from Wednesday PTO.
- I need to get out of my regular lazy and procrastinating work style and need to be more pro-active on managing things, this is a constant reminder I am learning about myself.
- Thursday was PULL day but I did not feel much muscle soreness up until Saturday, but it was just a little.
- Thursday evening couples message was a nice gesture by good friend especially after they paid top dollar for the service. Thank you for the good pay back.
- Post mid-night Mexican restaurant in a ghetto area was another good experience to add to the list when you hit late night rounds to satisfy your hunger.
FRIDAY
- Friday was crazy busy but I powered through it.
- This was one of the Fridays where I technically got 3 houses owner but on paper work I only own 2 houses.
- I am okay with the decision to push through and compensate for the lost 3 years when I was in school full time and could not invest more.
- Friday after second new house closing and getting keys, I wanted to make trips and get most major things done. I am glad that major things went as planned.
- Friday flew by fast and when in the afternoon I had to go see Mr. Anderson as he checked out from the hospital.
- Friday was a power day and I was drained after eating that Mexican grilled liver for dinner. I didn't feel good after that and specially they did not put spices on it at all. Not happy and not returning again to the same restaurant.
SATURDAY
- Spent the whole Saturday shopping around for estate sales and getting deals to furnish the new place and put it back on the market.
- Soon realized after spending 6+ hours that best deals are already on Amazon so did what I should have done already.
- Got tired and frustrated and ended Saturday half asleep
SUNDAY
- Got some good deals on Sofas and happy about it.
- Sunday was leg day so now I will learn what happens to my testosterone level in the coming days and also how great I will feel once I sleep tonight :)
- Spend the day contemplating about other side projects for which deadline is approaching, so responded them by email and going to start the week with a bang. Amen.
ANALYSIS
My observation about my lack of consistency is that I don't document things and I don't buy accountability. Putting things locking down in my calendar and buying accountability can push me through and I can get more done rather than sitting alone in my place and watching YouTube instead of doing work.
Secondly venturing out to coffee shops can help me do remote work but then after some hours that coffee shop soon becomes boring so I need to venture out to new coffee shops. I can do that.
Enough of said and analysis done. Time to do some more things now. GAME ON.
Wednesday, June 27, 2018
Upon Waking Up
As I get older day by day .... I learn that subconsciously how much I have admired the qualities of people who don't exist anymore in my life.
Even if I want them in my life either they do not exist anymore physically in this world and others who are here choose not be with me anymore.
In either case, the point is love is not constant and hope is never ending. When someone passes away we put our hopes of meeting them in the next world in order to make ourselves feel better.
When someone chooses not to be with you. It is a moment of being thankfulness because they are teaching you that everything is fleeting and on top of that they are validating the fact that no one cares for you but about their own well being and why not.
We all have selfish genes from evolution. Some have more like myself others have less and conditioned like late Mother Teresa
Still the humanistic and love virus in our mind and body creeps in and we still look towards lost people with optimism and good faith.
I wonder how life would have been if I would have grown up in a balance family. Would my responsibilities still have been the same or different. Would I have focused more on others rather myself. Would I have had more generous heart than what it is or vice versa.
Would I have had more compassion and kindness or more greed.
As I decide my life directions on these cross roads where the road I set on my journey is reaching it's destination. These questions still remain unanswered.
It's time for me to start with the basics, no talk just actions.
Will the roads of new again but old as a soul of a city will keep me motivated to manage multiple things even as a nomad. When people look up to you as a leader and you don't have all the answers.... What do you do?
It would be nice if you were with me on this journey but in case if you were with me in the first place.... It would have been a destination already not a journey anymore.
Until next time.
June 27, 2018 from a mid night wake up situation and pen it down.
Monday, June 25, 2018
Raw Thoughts on Career, What you learn in a decade and being brutally Honest!!!
Just like in a bar on Friday night over drinks you end up spilling all the secrets of your life and talk as YOU are.
On a reunion trip to East coast with alma-mater friends, we all shared what matters to us and how we think differently.
I think our experiences make us who we are. The moment people hear your opinion and it is different from rest of the world...TWO THINGS happen.
The moment you become vanilla they abandon you.
You have your own voice and your own world view. You have your own goals and following those goals is the key to be yourself.
If I have a backbone, I can disagree and commit ...that's what makes you different than me.
On a reunion trip to East coast with alma-mater friends, we all shared what matters to us and how we think differently.
I think our experiences make us who we are. The moment people hear your opinion and it is different from rest of the world...TWO THINGS happen.
- 1st. People get uncomfortable
- 2nd. They wants you to be vanilla.
The moment you become vanilla they abandon you.
You have your own voice and your own world view. You have your own goals and following those goals is the key to be yourself.
If I have a backbone, I can disagree and commit ...that's what makes you different than me.
Life of Sin and Nostalgia
I think music does not get enough credit and importance in our lives like food, water, shelter etc. If I look back there have been certain times in my life good and bad where music was the only source of motivation and inspiration. There are certain music and themes which have been associated with certain tough times in my life as a child.
I remember certain songs even when they play on radio, the whole scene of my childhood and tragedies play in front of me. Similarly certain songs and instrumentals when I get to hear them they take me back to my journey for the last 15+ years while I am living on my own.
I discovered 'Mr Suicide Sheep' 3 years ago. During 1st year of discovering the electronic music on Spotify, these instrumental became a repeat on my playlist. There are certain selected tracks which are all time favorite.
Every time I listen to those tracks I take a trip back to late 2015 era and on wards. I start visualizing Riverside drive, Riverchase, Arkansas river......... those long runs and cycling. The thoughts of scary future come flooding into my mind. The trips from Oral Roberts University to 81st drive and look at the sky from balcony.
I remember all that, nostalgia is still strong with all those good and challenging days. I used to do at the end of certain days. When I listen to those tracks ...... I still remember making the decision to leave everything behind in Dallas and moving to Tulsa all of a sudden. I still don't remember why or how I was able to pull that decision so quickly...but the burden and anxiety was so strong that I wanted to get out of my corporate slavery routine.
Years down the road I can understand happiness within thyself is the key to happiness around you, not matter you are in big or smaller city.
Thank you Mitis - Life Of Sin for giving some vague meaning to those moments of despair and stress.
I remember certain songs even when they play on radio, the whole scene of my childhood and tragedies play in front of me. Similarly certain songs and instrumentals when I get to hear them they take me back to my journey for the last 15+ years while I am living on my own.
I discovered 'Mr Suicide Sheep' 3 years ago. During 1st year of discovering the electronic music on Spotify, these instrumental became a repeat on my playlist. There are certain selected tracks which are all time favorite.
Every time I listen to those tracks I take a trip back to late 2015 era and on wards. I start visualizing Riverside drive, Riverchase, Arkansas river......... those long runs and cycling. The thoughts of scary future come flooding into my mind. The trips from Oral Roberts University to 81st drive and look at the sky from balcony.
I remember all that, nostalgia is still strong with all those good and challenging days. I used to do at the end of certain days. When I listen to those tracks ...... I still remember making the decision to leave everything behind in Dallas and moving to Tulsa all of a sudden. I still don't remember why or how I was able to pull that decision so quickly...but the burden and anxiety was so strong that I wanted to get out of my corporate slavery routine.
Years down the road I can understand happiness within thyself is the key to happiness around you, not matter you are in big or smaller city.
Thank you Mitis - Life Of Sin for giving some vague meaning to those moments of despair and stress.
Sunday, June 24, 2018
David called me out on my Bulls**t
JUNE 22, 2018
David: Yaar I need a favor from you, at work now will call you tomorrow evening if you're available.
Me: Gee Hukam. What favor sir?
David: Will tell you when we talk :)
Me: Sir don't ask something which I will not be able to do.
NEXT DAY: JUNE 23, 2018
David: hi
Me: Hola
David: Free hai?
Me: Sir Hukam? Hello
RING RING RING RING , INCOMING PHONE CALL. RING RING RING RING
Me: Hello, gee Boss how are you?
David: Haan Azar Sahab kia haal hain? Ap busy admi hain humien lift he nahi karwatay.
Me: Nahi Sir, app neechay dekhain tou hum nacheez log app ko nazar aeen gay na.
David: Acha yaar mein nay tujhe aik baat kehni thee.
Me : Yaar, I have a feeling about what you are going to tell me, so before you tell me I am already asking please no. I don't think so I will be the best person to do that. You should ask Asif or anyone else to do that.
David: Azar Sahab, dramay karnay ke zarurat nahi hai. You are my best friend, so I would request you that. I am telling you this 6 months in advance already. November 2nd is my wedding and I want you to be the best man.
Azar: Yaar do you know the theory of best man? You know the wing-man concept as well. I may not be the best person to take that job on November 2.
David: Mein nay jo kehna thaa mein nay keh diya, abb agay koi tamashay karnay ke zarurat nahi hai.
Me: Yaar shadi kahan Sweden mein hai ya phir Pakistan mein?
David : Lahore mein hai. You have 6 months, ticket waghara book kar laina pehlay he.
Me: Yaar you need to get some nice guy as best-man who is experienced as well. Someone like Shahbaz not me. Meri tou khud shadi nahi huee abhi tak, what do I know about best-man.
David: Haan tou kar lain na shaadi kis nay rooka hai tujhe.
Me: Yaar mera tou proposal he reject ho gaya, shadi kai khaak karni hai.
David: What do you mean proposal reject ho gaya.
Me: Yaar I don't know, I am learning about my own set of things and priorities in mind.
David: Par huva kia hai.
Me: Yaar tujhe pata tou hai when I was in NYC with you last year. I started feeling heavy and burdened. You asked me about it. I told you and then I thought the right thing to do is say sorry and move on. You know already I went for mere 45 mins and came back in 6 hours. My intention was to meet her say sorry and come back. I already had a gf at that time. However, it turned out to be an emotional meeting for me. After 40 minutes into conversation, it felt thing are getting emotional and I wanted to leave right there.
David: Haan tou why you did not leave.
Me: Yaar I wanted to and after dinner we walked towards the parking lot. My heart was heavy already. She overcame her emotions in tear and she was crying altogether. I didn't know what to do. My heart broke more seeing her cry. I did not want to leave and rest you know I came so late.
David: Emotional attachment can be very strong.
Me: Yaar one night after graduating when I was in hotel room, I realized that degree is done, but she is still not here. I don't know what goals I have in my mind. I learned that she has a bf now.
David: How did you propose her?
Me: Yaar I simply called her up and asked " Mujh say shadi kar loo ". Even though this approach looks very needy and desperate, but for a couple of weeks I have been so uncomfortable and kind of down before that so I had to say it.
David: Just like that?
Me: Haan tou or kaise. Once you need to do something just say it and ask. Simple, iss mein preparation kaise.
David: I don't believe you. I can imagine the way you would have made this statement and said it, that even she would not have understood it.
Me: Yaar the point is, I asked seriously and she insulted me over the phone first and then gave it a thought and then insulted again one night after calling me.
David: Did you ever gave her a hint about marriage?
Me: Yaar back in the days in 2010 or so. I told her that when my qualifying exam will be done we will get engaged. Mujhe kia pata thaa kay this degree will take 10 years and the job and all the life's ups and down will come out for me. She brought that discussion to me in 2013 but I did not feel myself ready as if I have accomplished anything to move to another step in life. So I did not appreciate the idea, even though she wanted me to meet her family.
David: Yaar, you put expectation is someone's mind first and then blame them, this is not right.
Me: Maybe you are right. I got so mad when she started to manipulate me by inviting my mother to US as if she will pair us up by some magic. I myself needed to feel ready to make that decision not anyone else. Instead it struck a bad nerve in me, I went totally opposite, and then the interesting thing is. She did not want to talk about it or explain why she did that. We had a huge argument and fight about it. She said she wanted to give me a surprise. I didn't like that surprise at all.
David: You kept moving around here and there after other girls. Not sure what you expect. Girls need a proper direction and time. Sorry to say as a neutral person I don't think so you did any of that.
Me: Yes, I did all that, to get all kinds of imaginations and kinkiness out of my system before marriage. Yaar the worst of all, she does not even have enough sense regarding where to put a boundary line between personal and professional live. You know she sent that email at my work place and all.
David: Yaar, what I see as a neutral person is that you did not give her a firm understanding which always made her feel insecure. Because of her insecurity she started reaching out to other people and doing things like this. If you would have said something more firm ...
Me: I don't know. We used to do a lot of impulsive things together. After engagement timeline did not work out. After that never said anything about marriage and all by words because that's a big big commitment. We both are used to doing things on spot and impulsively and Then for getting settled she wants a firm date. Anyways I am happy that she is happy now.
David: I will still say you did not put a firm timeline... nothing is lost as of now.
Me: David Sahib, she has a boy friend now. She is happy with him. In fact she even blocked me on Watsapp so that if she shares her pictures and bf pictures on Watsapp by mistake I should not be able to see it. She thinks I am as crazy like her. She thinks I will contact her boyfriend and start treating him like she did with people in my social circle. I hate that manipulative mentality. On top of that she starts texting me every now and then. Even though she blocked me on WatsApp. That's a 100% manipulator right there.
David: I think any girl will do this to get attention. What I know from limited information. You have made her so much insecure in the past that she does not want to take any chance.
Me: Yaar iss mein insecure or chance ke kia baat hai.... I did what I decided I had to do. Agay abb chance and more pursuance all that does not matter. When she has moved on already and happy exploring her other options. Let it be.
David: I don't think so, if she has lived in US for 10+ years, she would know already how guys are and they can be good boy friends and all nice all the time but who gets serious about marriage anyways. Nothing has wasted for now and if you really want you should still go and pursue her.
Me: Pursue her? Bhai sahib I have blocked her number as well. I don't want to coddle anyone who wants to block me half on one application and keep on getting attention from on another platform. If she is happy enjoying the new toy she has found ... good for her.
I mean think about it who in their sane mind would text " Come and meet my boyfriend? I mean this is total attention seeking behavior plus manipulation at the same time. What does I have to do after meeting him......come on.
David: Azar sahib, I am still saying that you have time and you should at least talk face to face to her. Texting does not give the real story. Make things clear and if nothing then just close this chapter never to open this.
Me: I think she is mature enough to understand and decide what she is looking and what is her goal in life. She even did an analysis and therapist appointment to discuss this as well. Even though I don't believe these American therapists because they themselves have 4 marriages , divorces and remarriages at the same time not everyone but an average thought. Maybe they all like to explore like me. But still if someone believes them and their opinion like she wants their opinion and if that convinces her its fine.
David: Khair yaar teri marzi hai. Marriage is a matter of sacrifice simply. Not everyday will be great and not every day will be worst. It's a constant struggle. Agay abb jo teri marzi hoo. I still think it was all your fault.
Me: I have thought through it. I am doing different things these days which will distract me enough and she will also get better with time and hate me well enough to have peaceful life. One I will move either to Pakistan or remain in North West and occupied with other things in life, I will continue to do great. Her life goals like any other girl of her age she will find as what she wants anyways. Everyone is in-charge of their happiness.
David: Jaise teri marzi sir.
Me: Bye
HANG UP HANG UP HANG UP HANG UP V
David: Yaar I need a favor from you, at work now will call you tomorrow evening if you're available.
Me: Gee Hukam. What favor sir?
David: Will tell you when we talk :)
Me: Sir don't ask something which I will not be able to do.
NEXT DAY: JUNE 23, 2018
David: hi
Me: Hola
David: Free hai?
Me: Sir Hukam? Hello
RING RING RING RING , INCOMING PHONE CALL. RING RING RING RING
Me: Hello, gee Boss how are you?
David: Haan Azar Sahab kia haal hain? Ap busy admi hain humien lift he nahi karwatay.
Me: Nahi Sir, app neechay dekhain tou hum nacheez log app ko nazar aeen gay na.
David: Acha yaar mein nay tujhe aik baat kehni thee.
Me : Yaar, I have a feeling about what you are going to tell me, so before you tell me I am already asking please no. I don't think so I will be the best person to do that. You should ask Asif or anyone else to do that.
David: Azar Sahab, dramay karnay ke zarurat nahi hai. You are my best friend, so I would request you that. I am telling you this 6 months in advance already. November 2nd is my wedding and I want you to be the best man.
Azar: Yaar do you know the theory of best man? You know the wing-man concept as well. I may not be the best person to take that job on November 2.
David: Mein nay jo kehna thaa mein nay keh diya, abb agay koi tamashay karnay ke zarurat nahi hai.
Me: Yaar shadi kahan Sweden mein hai ya phir Pakistan mein?
David : Lahore mein hai. You have 6 months, ticket waghara book kar laina pehlay he.
Me: Yaar you need to get some nice guy as best-man who is experienced as well. Someone like Shahbaz not me. Meri tou khud shadi nahi huee abhi tak, what do I know about best-man.
David: Haan tou kar lain na shaadi kis nay rooka hai tujhe.
Me: Yaar mera tou proposal he reject ho gaya, shadi kai khaak karni hai.
David: What do you mean proposal reject ho gaya.
Me: Yaar I don't know, I am learning about my own set of things and priorities in mind.
David: Par huva kia hai.
Me: Yaar tujhe pata tou hai when I was in NYC with you last year. I started feeling heavy and burdened. You asked me about it. I told you and then I thought the right thing to do is say sorry and move on. You know already I went for mere 45 mins and came back in 6 hours. My intention was to meet her say sorry and come back. I already had a gf at that time. However, it turned out to be an emotional meeting for me. After 40 minutes into conversation, it felt thing are getting emotional and I wanted to leave right there.
David: Haan tou why you did not leave.
Me: Yaar I wanted to and after dinner we walked towards the parking lot. My heart was heavy already. She overcame her emotions in tear and she was crying altogether. I didn't know what to do. My heart broke more seeing her cry. I did not want to leave and rest you know I came so late.
David: Emotional attachment can be very strong.
Me: Yaar one night after graduating when I was in hotel room, I realized that degree is done, but she is still not here. I don't know what goals I have in my mind. I learned that she has a bf now.
David: How did you propose her?
Me: Yaar I simply called her up and asked " Mujh say shadi kar loo ". Even though this approach looks very needy and desperate, but for a couple of weeks I have been so uncomfortable and kind of down before that so I had to say it.
David: Just like that?
Me: Haan tou or kaise. Once you need to do something just say it and ask. Simple, iss mein preparation kaise.
David: I don't believe you. I can imagine the way you would have made this statement and said it, that even she would not have understood it.
Me: Yaar the point is, I asked seriously and she insulted me over the phone first and then gave it a thought and then insulted again one night after calling me.
David: Did you ever gave her a hint about marriage?
Me: Yaar back in the days in 2010 or so. I told her that when my qualifying exam will be done we will get engaged. Mujhe kia pata thaa kay this degree will take 10 years and the job and all the life's ups and down will come out for me. She brought that discussion to me in 2013 but I did not feel myself ready as if I have accomplished anything to move to another step in life. So I did not appreciate the idea, even though she wanted me to meet her family.
David: Yaar, you put expectation is someone's mind first and then blame them, this is not right.
Me: Maybe you are right. I got so mad when she started to manipulate me by inviting my mother to US as if she will pair us up by some magic. I myself needed to feel ready to make that decision not anyone else. Instead it struck a bad nerve in me, I went totally opposite, and then the interesting thing is. She did not want to talk about it or explain why she did that. We had a huge argument and fight about it. She said she wanted to give me a surprise. I didn't like that surprise at all.
David: You kept moving around here and there after other girls. Not sure what you expect. Girls need a proper direction and time. Sorry to say as a neutral person I don't think so you did any of that.
Me: Yes, I did all that, to get all kinds of imaginations and kinkiness out of my system before marriage. Yaar the worst of all, she does not even have enough sense regarding where to put a boundary line between personal and professional live. You know she sent that email at my work place and all.
David: Yaar, what I see as a neutral person is that you did not give her a firm understanding which always made her feel insecure. Because of her insecurity she started reaching out to other people and doing things like this. If you would have said something more firm ...
Me: I don't know. We used to do a lot of impulsive things together. After engagement timeline did not work out. After that never said anything about marriage and all by words because that's a big big commitment. We both are used to doing things on spot and impulsively and Then for getting settled she wants a firm date. Anyways I am happy that she is happy now.
David: I will still say you did not put a firm timeline... nothing is lost as of now.
Me: David Sahib, she has a boy friend now. She is happy with him. In fact she even blocked me on Watsapp so that if she shares her pictures and bf pictures on Watsapp by mistake I should not be able to see it. She thinks I am as crazy like her. She thinks I will contact her boyfriend and start treating him like she did with people in my social circle. I hate that manipulative mentality. On top of that she starts texting me every now and then. Even though she blocked me on WatsApp. That's a 100% manipulator right there.
David: I think any girl will do this to get attention. What I know from limited information. You have made her so much insecure in the past that she does not want to take any chance.
Me: Yaar iss mein insecure or chance ke kia baat hai.... I did what I decided I had to do. Agay abb chance and more pursuance all that does not matter. When she has moved on already and happy exploring her other options. Let it be.
David: I don't think so, if she has lived in US for 10+ years, she would know already how guys are and they can be good boy friends and all nice all the time but who gets serious about marriage anyways. Nothing has wasted for now and if you really want you should still go and pursue her.
Me: Pursue her? Bhai sahib I have blocked her number as well. I don't want to coddle anyone who wants to block me half on one application and keep on getting attention from on another platform. If she is happy enjoying the new toy she has found ... good for her.
I mean think about it who in their sane mind would text " Come and meet my boyfriend? I mean this is total attention seeking behavior plus manipulation at the same time. What does I have to do after meeting him......come on.
David: Azar sahib, I am still saying that you have time and you should at least talk face to face to her. Texting does not give the real story. Make things clear and if nothing then just close this chapter never to open this.
Me: I think she is mature enough to understand and decide what she is looking and what is her goal in life. She even did an analysis and therapist appointment to discuss this as well. Even though I don't believe these American therapists because they themselves have 4 marriages , divorces and remarriages at the same time not everyone but an average thought. Maybe they all like to explore like me. But still if someone believes them and their opinion like she wants their opinion and if that convinces her its fine.
David: Khair yaar teri marzi hai. Marriage is a matter of sacrifice simply. Not everyday will be great and not every day will be worst. It's a constant struggle. Agay abb jo teri marzi hoo. I still think it was all your fault.
Me: I have thought through it. I am doing different things these days which will distract me enough and she will also get better with time and hate me well enough to have peaceful life. One I will move either to Pakistan or remain in North West and occupied with other things in life, I will continue to do great. Her life goals like any other girl of her age she will find as what she wants anyways. Everyone is in-charge of their happiness.
David: Jaise teri marzi sir.
Me: Bye
HANG UP HANG UP HANG UP HANG UP V
Friday, June 22, 2018
Crazy = Selfie at 1:30 am + Car Interview
Today, when they asked what's the craziest thing you have done lately? ...I started thinking.
The word 'crazy' is abstract and can be used in different contexts. I have done some crazy things which now when I remember are not so nice ones for some people and great for others. Well what can we say. Life is a trade-off. You have to find the optimum balance.
Crazy #1
1:30 am Selfie + Fooling at the same time with another person is sick... Hahahaha
Sender: " Selfie taken for you while half asleep. 1:30 am at Apple Bees "
Receiver: " I don't think I told you how much I liked the photo (it was a good one) and the sentiment (you thinking of me at one thirty at apple-bees). Hope you're enjoying yourself!. S "
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Crazy #2
Another time where you leave your current lecture and job to come and attend an interview for an internship position which will not even pay 1/6th of what you have currently....but still I did it. Yes I did it because I wanted to do so. Regret is poison and I don't like poison when natural life has limit to expire already forget poison instead. I think Dan Ariely and his research is right...people do things what they want to do, because ultimately they want to do it.
Well I did not get that specific internship which was a good sign because I saved my face and learned from the school of hard knocks instead.
Rather than saying I wish I could have done that. I said to myself Why Not go ahead and do it. What's the worst that can happen. Nothing worst happened but I added a tool in my story box instead.
Go ahead and do it .... what's on your mind and knock it off from the check list. What's the worst that can happen?
The word 'crazy' is abstract and can be used in different contexts. I have done some crazy things which now when I remember are not so nice ones for some people and great for others. Well what can we say. Life is a trade-off. You have to find the optimum balance.
Crazy #1
1:30 am Selfie + Fooling at the same time with another person is sick... Hahahaha
Sender: " Selfie taken for you while half asleep. 1:30 am at Apple Bees "
Receiver: " I don't think I told you how much I liked the photo (it was a good one) and the sentiment (you thinking of me at one thirty at apple-bees). Hope you're enjoying yourself!. S "
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Crazy #2
Another time where you leave your current lecture and job to come and attend an interview for an internship position which will not even pay 1/6th of what you have currently....but still I did it. Yes I did it because I wanted to do so. Regret is poison and I don't like poison when natural life has limit to expire already forget poison instead. I think Dan Ariely and his research is right...people do things what they want to do, because ultimately they want to do it.
Well I did not get that specific internship which was a good sign because I saved my face and learned from the school of hard knocks instead.
Rather than saying I wish I could have done that. I said to myself Why Not go ahead and do it. What's the worst that can happen. Nothing worst happened but I added a tool in my story box instead.
Go ahead and do it .... what's on your mind and knock it off from the check list. What's the worst that can happen?
Snippets with "ideal" # response from me
" Enjoy your day Sir!!! Love you:-)"
# Metoo
"I can't go back and front with you without a purpose"
# I know you cannot help yourself.
" Sir, guess what someone who works with me and has been working for 15 yrs told me that she felt comfortable working with me. "
# I felt comfortable with you for the last 10 years as well and it has been a rough ride but still I do
"Bohat buray ho mera joke bana rahay ho....lol kiun"
# lol = lots of love. About joke .... hum donoon ke life he joke ban gaee :(
"R u making fun of me? I did it in a lovie dovie way"
# lovie dovie has fun in it as well.
"Pyar say kiya tha"
# Why did you stop the pyar?
"Please sir don't over do it because I will get use to it and then you will not want to do it anymore. I will love you anyways even if you don't say these words :)"
# I do too and take action instead of saying anything
Good night sir ji! Sweet dreams! :-)
# See you in dreams
# Metoo
"I can't go back and front with you without a purpose"
# I know you cannot help yourself.
" Sir, guess what someone who works with me and has been working for 15 yrs told me that she felt comfortable working with me. "
# I felt comfortable with you for the last 10 years as well and it has been a rough ride but still I do
"Bohat buray ho mera joke bana rahay ho....lol kiun"
# lol = lots of love. About joke .... hum donoon ke life he joke ban gaee :(
"R u making fun of me? I did it in a lovie dovie way"
# lovie dovie has fun in it as well.
"Pyar say kiya tha"
# Why did you stop the pyar?
"Please sir don't over do it because I will get use to it and then you will not want to do it anymore. I will love you anyways even if you don't say these words :)"
# I do too and take action instead of saying anything
Good night sir ji! Sweet dreams! :-)
# See you in dreams
Thursday, June 21, 2018
Weekly Gratitude and Getting Back in "The Game"
In order to get back in life and to get myself back on track. Physical fitness is one way to do that. The other long term approach is to be thankful. This therapeutic approach is to count my blessings each day and be thankful. We don't get everything in life but I have gotten more than everything. I am auditing each day of the week and happy with what life has in store for me.
SATURDAY
Saturday night was " A Quiet place" a fake piece of story made into an excellent drama thriller that I would like to Salute the director and Dragon Breath which was fun.
SUNDAY
Sunday was Leg Day and my thighs and back are not sore any more now.. my trainer pushed me not that hard as I trained last year...... but my testosterone levels are improving so that is a good thing. I can feel it and that can be troublesome in some ways... :| :O. :|
MONDAY
Monday morning trip to Golden state and adventures started in LA plus lots of management. I need to work on my accountability skills to inquire others about their assigned duties.... Being a nice guy does not always make a cut, but I try to work with honey rather than using vinegar. It will get better with time. First I need to get better with myself and happy in myself.
TUESDAY
Getting back in the game is a little challenging. I have gotten rusty in the last 3-4 years or so. Will pick it up with time ..as memory serves well. This is how I performed....I think I did pretty well even though it needs brain to understand my sense of humor. I got compliments and criticism both. I know how to handle and pull from opposite directions. I will get through this.
One lady friend said this after reading, " Oh bloody hell. Hold this bucket, whilst I vomit "
Where the other said after reading this, " Too hard she does not understand your sense of humor "
David said after reading this, " What I can say Azar sahab? You are the captain of your own ship, the one who enjoys the thrill of a shipwreck is not gonna avoid the rocks no matter what anybody says :) "
Well David has got a point though.
I don't care whatever they say. I am glad I am taking steps and moving forward. Keeping busy and understanding the economics behind it is the solution to pick yourself up back and move. This is my remedy and medicinal healing.
THURSDAY
Thursday in San Francisco, another tough ones to manage, but will work fine. Plan to visit Pacific coast Highway hopefully in the afternoon. This crazy California traffic has driven me crazy for the last 4 days.
FRIDAY
Friday will be a good day once I fly back... A sigh of relief.
Thank you Lord for all the blessings, safety and opportunities to do the right thing. Amen
SATURDAY
Saturday night was " A Quiet place" a fake piece of story made into an excellent drama thriller that I would like to Salute the director and Dragon Breath which was fun.
Second Try
SUNDAY
Sunday was Leg Day and my thighs and back are not sore any more now.. my trainer pushed me not that hard as I trained last year...... but my testosterone levels are improving so that is a good thing. I can feel it and that can be troublesome in some ways... :| :O. :|
MONDAY
Monday morning trip to Golden state and adventures started in LA plus lots of management. I need to work on my accountability skills to inquire others about their assigned duties.... Being a nice guy does not always make a cut, but I try to work with honey rather than using vinegar. It will get better with time. First I need to get better with myself and happy in myself.
Mazda Miata MX5 was a great surprise and has been very adventurous for me so far.
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| Does not do the justice |
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| 143 on wheels |
Taking a Break from Work
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| Work to show off :( |
Meeting Mr. Darbandi at the Spur of Moment was awesome :D :)
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| I will not deter my plan |
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| Never thought we will meet randomly again ... |
Thank you Mr. Darbandi for the picture :)
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| Thank you Mr. Darbandi for the picture and impromptu meeting consent :) |
TUESDAY
Getting back in the game is a little challenging. I have gotten rusty in the last 3-4 years or so. Will pick it up with time ..as memory serves well. This is how I performed....I think I did pretty well even though it needs brain to understand my sense of humor. I got compliments and criticism both. I know how to handle and pull from opposite directions. I will get through this.
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| Talk your mind-1 |
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| Talk your mind-2 |
One lady friend said this after reading, " Oh bloody hell. Hold this bucket, whilst I vomit "
Where the other said after reading this, " Too hard she does not understand your sense of humor "
David said after reading this, " What I can say Azar sahab? You are the captain of your own ship, the one who enjoys the thrill of a shipwreck is not gonna avoid the rocks no matter what anybody says :) "
Well David has got a point though.
I don't care whatever they say. I am glad I am taking steps and moving forward. Keeping busy and understanding the economics behind it is the solution to pick yourself up back and move. This is my remedy and medicinal healing.
THURSDAY
Thursday in San Francisco, another tough ones to manage, but will work fine. Plan to visit Pacific coast Highway hopefully in the afternoon. This crazy California traffic has driven me crazy for the last 4 days.
FRIDAY
Friday will be a good day once I fly back... A sigh of relief.
Thank you Lord for all the blessings, safety and opportunities to do the right thing. Amen
Wednesday, June 20, 2018
Technology Does not Change Us...It Exposes Us----aka Exposes the Hypocrites and Manipulators
I remember the psychology lessons as a 9th grader on my way to coaching classes. We used to debate a lot about behavior and what will be the response of the opposite party.
Until one day we did meet a psychologist (he was a student though, but studied it more than us) who explained the gender bias and differences among men and women when it comes to relationships and the approach of two genders towards it.
Oh Boy, have I not seen it working for me for the last 12 years.. it sure is.
I have seen it happen in 2005,2006, on and on year after year and the pattern continues. Subconsciously, I realized from Day 1 when the trap was being placed. Usually we are not allowed to call out on people when they are doing so..... but just observe.
The gender pattern of using opportunistic approach is clear. Some people want to show only a selective group set about certain parts of their life and feel better and want to exclude the other group.
Email marketing, Facebook, Watsapp, Instagram ...you name it. The results are clear and I love the technology side of it. How we use the tech side of it while at the same time consumers even though they are aware...they spill their real subconscious behavior while using it..including myself.
Example #1:
I see people coming on to my shop, gathering all the knowledge and information silently for free. When it comes to making a purchase, they run away which is fine. However, if there is a mistake in the knowledge you are providing , they will be the first one to raise their hand, point fingers towards your credibility. However, when called upon their level of commitment, they act as if they are the most deserving and most well wishing prospective clients. :D
Example #2:
I remember the phone call waiting feature a lot people used in late 2000s, to do multi-tasking and being on other calls while others can wait or run multiple affairs on the side. When called out on it...again the same defensive story.
Example #3:
Watsapp status update and the likes. Sending a lame message to confirm if the other recipient can see it or not. If they can see it and delivered. Then make sure to block them so that they cannot see status update. That is pretty gory manipulative mindset. I have seen this coming more from girls than guys. Even the girls I thought consider them-self upfront and honest and do not care. The reality is at the end of the day...everyone cares and everyone is trying to keep their boat afloat to get their dream of becoming a mom one day real ..whatever it costs....<---- hint="" nbsp="" p="">
So How does all of that relate to my lessons from 9th grade? The lessons are as follows:
1- When you see this pattern happening run away as fast as you can from the person who is doing this because they are going to repeat the same thing in your face. While they will call them-self a saint and point fingers at you. It shows the basic lesson from 9th grade discussion. Do not Trust because it is ingrained in the nature of that specific individual.
2- Age old wisdom speaks from experience. When a 99+ years old person can tell you something about you and the other person -------right after meeting both of you for short 25 minutes. You should give them weight for their experience in life and wisdom. It will seem as contradictory opinion to what you want to happen but hey denial is also part of learning something about yourself later on :)
3- Give thanks to what you have become and strive towards the goal of where you want to be.
All the above observations and conclusions were a myth 15 years ago. Thanks to technology it helps us evaluate the true nature of us humans and exposes us.
Until one day we did meet a psychologist (he was a student though, but studied it more than us) who explained the gender bias and differences among men and women when it comes to relationships and the approach of two genders towards it.
Oh Boy, have I not seen it working for me for the last 12 years.. it sure is.
I have seen it happen in 2005,2006, on and on year after year and the pattern continues. Subconsciously, I realized from Day 1 when the trap was being placed. Usually we are not allowed to call out on people when they are doing so..... but just observe.
The gender pattern of using opportunistic approach is clear. Some people want to show only a selective group set about certain parts of their life and feel better and want to exclude the other group.
Email marketing, Facebook, Watsapp, Instagram ...you name it. The results are clear and I love the technology side of it. How we use the tech side of it while at the same time consumers even though they are aware...they spill their real subconscious behavior while using it..including myself.
Example #1:
I see people coming on to my shop, gathering all the knowledge and information silently for free. When it comes to making a purchase, they run away which is fine. However, if there is a mistake in the knowledge you are providing , they will be the first one to raise their hand, point fingers towards your credibility. However, when called upon their level of commitment, they act as if they are the most deserving and most well wishing prospective clients. :D
Example #2:
I remember the phone call waiting feature a lot people used in late 2000s, to do multi-tasking and being on other calls while others can wait or run multiple affairs on the side. When called out on it...again the same defensive story.
Example #3:
Watsapp status update and the likes. Sending a lame message to confirm if the other recipient can see it or not. If they can see it and delivered. Then make sure to block them so that they cannot see status update. That is pretty gory manipulative mindset. I have seen this coming more from girls than guys. Even the girls I thought consider them-self upfront and honest and do not care. The reality is at the end of the day...everyone cares and everyone is trying to keep their boat afloat to get their dream of becoming a mom one day real ..whatever it costs....<---- hint="" nbsp="" p="">
So How does all of that relate to my lessons from 9th grade? The lessons are as follows:
1- When you see this pattern happening run away as fast as you can from the person who is doing this because they are going to repeat the same thing in your face. While they will call them-self a saint and point fingers at you. It shows the basic lesson from 9th grade discussion. Do not Trust because it is ingrained in the nature of that specific individual.
2- Age old wisdom speaks from experience. When a 99+ years old person can tell you something about you and the other person -------right after meeting both of you for short 25 minutes. You should give them weight for their experience in life and wisdom. It will seem as contradictory opinion to what you want to happen but hey denial is also part of learning something about yourself later on :)
3- Give thanks to what you have become and strive towards the goal of where you want to be.
All the above observations and conclusions were a myth 15 years ago. Thanks to technology it helps us evaluate the true nature of us humans and exposes us.
Tuesday, June 19, 2018
She was wrong
The famous poetess was wrong. She spread this wrong concept of people coming back to you is a good thing. When you come back people try to use you to coddle their own feelings and prepare their empty ground for future.
It is not appreciated these days and people don't want people to come back, plain and simple. No one is a puppet and should not be used as a puppet. Life is to move on and it is always in your favor to move on.
Woh Jahan Bhi Gaya, LauTa tou meray pass aya
Bus Yehi baat hai achi meray harjai ke
It is not appreciated these days and people don't want people to come back, plain and simple. No one is a puppet and should not be used as a puppet. Life is to move on and it is always in your favor to move on.
Depressing thought but True
Love is a matter of proximity yeah I know it's depressing thought but it's true.
People think they are in love but they don't understand the economics behind it.
Proximity and social setting is the major pre-requisite for such a state of mind to happen in the first place.
Rest is all socially constructed, self satisfactory blames and thoughts people say to themselves to feel happy and content.
Monday, June 18, 2018
Words have Power
I have seen decisions being made and changed in your favor mere on account of twisting the words.
I am not going to talk about copy writing lessons and how much of an advantage it has brought to me professionally or personally.
However, the past weekend on Father's day when I got this words upon waking up.
" Happy Fathers day thank you like a father u have cared for me God bless u"
I could not believe. There are people in your life and circumstances have placed them strategically aligned with your circumstances to enable them and empower them.
I know life has taught me lessons to be strong and independent and it feels good that at least I can pay forward and try to empower those who are near and dear ones those are in need of care and support.
I pray and wish that I can do the little which I need to... in order to enable them more, so that I can live my life in peace. Amen.
Wednesday, June 13, 2018
Finances, Pets, Communications, Relationships --- The game being played around you
The value of someone in your eyes and mind decreases exponentially when they do something which they have been claiming that they will never do or they don't this or do that and years down they do the same thing. But it is agitating when they manipulate you with their own behavior. I am no saint nor I have claimed to be one, however people who have been pointing fingers at me....smh.
When they come into a situation like this, they also do what an average mind and an average person does. This is simple mathematics and its specialized branch of statistics. More specifically Gaussian curve. Some people think they are special and act as one, but when times get tough and tough gets going they give in and act like any other average Joe, Suzi, Tom, Harry, Sally..... you name it.
Everyone is after their own interest first. If they are not, then they are not normal according to social standards and there are so many biases and so many underlying social, financial and verbal commitments people make that they start to find them-self entangled in them day by day, night by night.
My personal experience is the more I increase my portfolio and increase in financial independence day by day...the more it hits on me the perspective of an average person ( not that I am on top of the world but still not in the middle of the curve). There is a game being played around them.
They think they are doing something for the betterment of themselves and their lives, but indirectly they are doing it for their boss(es) day in day out.
In the last 10 years what I saw in US culture is that people get mortgage payments, they feel happy momentarily, then it pile up with car payments and bills and then day in day out is what they live for and they don't feel it because every other Dick and Harry is doing the same---their next door neighbor including me. So 20 years ago, what they really thought and said to themselves as kids that this is what they will do when they grow up...they never get back to do it... simply behind the given excuse of every day survival.
Secondly the culture of having a pet in US and first world countries in general is widespread and appreciated. Nothing wrong with that however I feel the reason people are okay and happy with having a pet is because pets cannot talk back. Pets cannot speak against their masters and owners. They do not speak the human language, because if having a relationship with another human was that easy like having a pet. Everyone would have fun and have fun. There won't be so many empty houses and 1 bedroom apartments every other corner. Going Solo and it's rise in US is the topic of discussion for some other time.
They issue is humans can point out the faults and shortcomings in other humans and no one likes to be told of their shortcomings on their face, whereas dogs, cats and pets cannot do so to their owners.
If two humans are together there will be arguments, there will be disputes there will be times of conflict.
I found something very powerful tonight
" Arguments are to relationships what bugs are to the great outdoors. The two don't exist without each other. If you go outside, expect some bugs. If you love someone, expect some conflict. The belief that " if you really love each other, you won't fight " is a lie that sets you up for relational disaster. Kind of like me sitting on my porch and expecting no mosquito bites---- it just ain't gonna happen, honey. It's like wanting to enjoy the benefit of good communication without ever having to navigate the difficulties. Like expecting you'll get along with your spouse without ever working at it. The idea of conflict-free communication with your spouse is extremely unrealistic. So what's the answer? Find a healthy way to handle the conflicts. "
Sometimes you get thoughts and words in your own mind already. But when you read it elsewhere it resonates with you. Now my time to get off the soapbox.
When they come into a situation like this, they also do what an average mind and an average person does. This is simple mathematics and its specialized branch of statistics. More specifically Gaussian curve. Some people think they are special and act as one, but when times get tough and tough gets going they give in and act like any other average Joe, Suzi, Tom, Harry, Sally..... you name it.
Everyone is after their own interest first. If they are not, then they are not normal according to social standards and there are so many biases and so many underlying social, financial and verbal commitments people make that they start to find them-self entangled in them day by day, night by night.
My personal experience is the more I increase my portfolio and increase in financial independence day by day...the more it hits on me the perspective of an average person ( not that I am on top of the world but still not in the middle of the curve). There is a game being played around them.
They think they are doing something for the betterment of themselves and their lives, but indirectly they are doing it for their boss(es) day in day out.
In the last 10 years what I saw in US culture is that people get mortgage payments, they feel happy momentarily, then it pile up with car payments and bills and then day in day out is what they live for and they don't feel it because every other Dick and Harry is doing the same---their next door neighbor including me. So 20 years ago, what they really thought and said to themselves as kids that this is what they will do when they grow up...they never get back to do it... simply behind the given excuse of every day survival.
Secondly the culture of having a pet in US and first world countries in general is widespread and appreciated. Nothing wrong with that however I feel the reason people are okay and happy with having a pet is because pets cannot talk back. Pets cannot speak against their masters and owners. They do not speak the human language, because if having a relationship with another human was that easy like having a pet. Everyone would have fun and have fun. There won't be so many empty houses and 1 bedroom apartments every other corner. Going Solo and it's rise in US is the topic of discussion for some other time.
They issue is humans can point out the faults and shortcomings in other humans and no one likes to be told of their shortcomings on their face, whereas dogs, cats and pets cannot do so to their owners.
If two humans are together there will be arguments, there will be disputes there will be times of conflict.
I found something very powerful tonight
" Arguments are to relationships what bugs are to the great outdoors. The two don't exist without each other. If you go outside, expect some bugs. If you love someone, expect some conflict. The belief that " if you really love each other, you won't fight " is a lie that sets you up for relational disaster. Kind of like me sitting on my porch and expecting no mosquito bites---- it just ain't gonna happen, honey. It's like wanting to enjoy the benefit of good communication without ever having to navigate the difficulties. Like expecting you'll get along with your spouse without ever working at it. The idea of conflict-free communication with your spouse is extremely unrealistic. So what's the answer? Find a healthy way to handle the conflicts. "
Sometimes you get thoughts and words in your own mind already. But when you read it elsewhere it resonates with you. Now my time to get off the soapbox.
Tuesday, June 12, 2018
Some songs stick for a moment
Some songs even though old or already passed the test of time. However, if you get to hear them at least once they stick and stick closer to your mind.
I know if I will put this on repeat , it will lose its significance in 48 hours. This habit of repeat I learned from someone close form the past.
Here's to Ik Tu Hai, Ik Main Hoon!!!
I know if I will put this on repeat , it will lose its significance in 48 hours. This habit of repeat I learned from someone close form the past.
Here's to Ik Tu Hai, Ik Main Hoon!!!
I prefer hate than socially constructed feelings
I remember when my life was about to change a decade ago --+ the gentleman who was sent to speak on my behalf in front of the whole syndicate... defended my case even though he didn't have to.
Later on when he came out of the boardroom in our regular setting he wasn't shy to speak his mind. He said openly in front of everyone, " I supported him against all adversary today ...because he is a long term player and he does not even know..you dont know what he is going to do. "
Then he said in native language , " Yeh lambi race ka ghora hai"
In my heart, I laughed thinking to myself why he is saying all that. He doesn't even know me.
Yes he didn't know me. But HE did know me.
I recall correctly --+ little Azar in 8th grade only knew one thing to ask in prayer before going to bed..and he continued to do so for years and years to come and things kept going on and on and on. As I keep getting pulled in all different directions personally and professionally unexpectedly from all.directions. I ask for the same little Azar prayer to You again.
Not sure where and why the older me stopped it for real but that reverence is missing in me.
I keep my heart open now for the hate exists in my surroundings. Help me overcome it. It is better I deal with hate and pain than socially constructed niceties and outward love from the folks around me.
Monday, June 11, 2018
This morning
This morning when I woke up...your feelings were immensely flowing through my mind. Even though I didn't feel energetic enough to go for a run... I was happy and content. I could feel you next to me. It felt like one of those days when you get up early (as usual).
I know when I will go to the living room you will be on the phone talking to your long list of aunts and friends catching up.
Even though none of it happened in current time today let alone in my mind again. It felt good. It brought peace in me and I felt calm. It didn't feel that life is a burden getting out of bed today but the mere thought of thinking and these thoughts coming in today made me grin and I started my day with a smile. At the end whatever makes it work for me, I am going to do it until it is not fancy anymore to me. Till next time.
I know when I will go to the living room you will be on the phone talking to your long list of aunts and friends catching up.
Even though none of it happened in current time today let alone in my mind again. It felt good. It brought peace in me and I felt calm. It didn't feel that life is a burden getting out of bed today but the mere thought of thinking and these thoughts coming in today made me grin and I started my day with a smile. At the end whatever makes it work for me, I am going to do it until it is not fancy anymore to me. Till next time.
Saturday, June 9, 2018
A dream this morning/afternoon
I have been sleeping odd hours as usual, but when I woke up this afternoon it was a little painful. It was painful because I saw you in my dream.
SCENARIO
The dream scenario is: we ended up being in the same town and same neighborhood.
One morning when I was walking my way to do chores.
I turn around and see you are walking behind me on your way.
I look at you and you continue walking your way and give me such a arrogant and condescending look as usual, I am familiar with for the last 10 years.
I am used to that look from you anyways. You go and sit in the library + faculty room. I enter the same room as well on my way. I see there are busy people doing their stuff irrespective of what is going on in anyone's life.
I get my stuff done and move on my way towards the exit.
OUTCoME
Your de-sensitize approach will work and working well for you. You have a catalyst and enzymes helping you overcome that right now.
So I would say it's good for you.
I know the game a little better than you which people do not believe that it is.... because for one they are blinded by social construct and conditioning.
The economics of love and how it takes place given under certain conditions is well known and proven multiple times. I hope you get well and recover good when this phase of status in your life will be over as the social dynamics changes. I have gone through the path already and getting validated again was a good sign this afternoon.
Thursday, June 7, 2018
The feeling of Fresh Love?
What is the feeling and state of fresh love?
It's the feeling you get similar to the one you had on December ,2009.
It's the feeling you get by maturity and listening to the same song you continued to listen on your way to Canada by Grey hound. All night long.
It's the feeling you get when you are alone and think about the past.
It's transitonary and fleeting. You can Experience it in your memories but cannot expect it or perceive it.
It's the same feeling you had at 6 am long distance intercontinental calls. It's the feeling of energy and companionship which didn't last long.
Monday, June 4, 2018
Some Words Come Straight from Heart and Speak Your Mind!!!
Poetry and writing is a form of communication which even though not as extrovert as video and audio is, but contains enough affect and effect to influence and persuade. I feel soothed reading poetry and songs even though it happens rarely, but when it happens it is addictive for a while :)
Meri bechainiyon ko chain mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Mere deewanepan ko sabr mil jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Zikr tumhara jab jab hota hai
Dekho na aankhon se
bheega bheega pyaar beh jaat hai
Meri tanhaiyon ko noor mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazr aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Main raat-din yeh duaa karun
Tere liye main jiyun marun
Chaaron pehar tujhe dekha karun
Mera jahan yeh tujhe fanaa karun
Zikr tumhara jab jab hota hai
Dekho na honthon per tera ehsaas
Reh jaata hai
Mere har raaste ko manzil mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Berang hawayein mujhe naa jaane
De gayi sadda kyun abhi abhi
Hai sarfaroshi ye aashiqui bhi
Jaayegi jaan meri isme kabhi
Zikr tumhara jab jab hota hai
Dekho na har lamha teri daastaan
keh jaat hai
Meri har ik tadap ko sukoon mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Meri bechainiyon ko chain mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Mere deewanepan ko sabr mil jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Zikr tumhara jab jab hota hai
Dekho na aankhon se
bheega bheega pyaar beh jaat hai
Meri tanhaiyon ko noor mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazr aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Main raat-din yeh duaa karun
Tere liye main jiyun marun
Chaaron pehar tujhe dekha karun
Mera jahan yeh tujhe fanaa karun
Zikr tumhara jab jab hota hai
Dekho na honthon per tera ehsaas
Reh jaata hai
Mere har raaste ko manzil mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Berang hawayein mujhe naa jaane
De gayi sadda kyun abhi abhi
Hai sarfaroshi ye aashiqui bhi
Jaayegi jaan meri isme kabhi
Zikr tumhara jab jab hota hai
Dekho na har lamha teri daastaan
keh jaat hai
Meri har ik tadap ko sukoon mill jaaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Tera chehra jab nazar aaye
Sunday, June 3, 2018
Thank You: A Pending Update 2014-2017
A long pending update to all the donors and partners. Thank you for your generosity and here is the long pending update for the last 3+ years. Enjoy !!!
Saturday, June 2, 2018
2 Lessons in 2 Minutes
- What's the ROI of commitment and consistency?
- How to manage your clients and work and school all at the same time?
- What happens the day you give up? Does odds work in your favor.
A glimpse from the past life and if only I would apply more 'commitment and consistency' rule in my own life.
Friday, June 1, 2018
#NationalSmileDay: New Day of Proclamation
It's never too late to participate. Belated May 31, National Smile day.
People don't give as much importance on the ROI of a smile.
It's huge if done the right way and in right context.
People have freaking no clue how much I have cashed out figuratively and literally on the simple gentle smile below.
Go Figure !!!
People don't give as much importance on the ROI of a smile.
It's huge if done the right way and in right context.
People have freaking no clue how much I have cashed out figuratively and literally on the simple gentle smile below.
Go Figure !!!
This Will Not Let Me Down. Amen
Thank You Dear Lord for bringing all the skeptics and doubters in my life since 1997. I am glad You have shown Your wonders in miraculous ways which I don't understand but only You Do.
I am also thankful for letting me live life without fear and expectations of anyone. Dear Lord, I know people try to bring me down in their own way and expectations. You have brought enough examinations and challenges + circumstances in my life to train me for Your glory. Your name will be glorified in all ways. I hurt people in return knowingly and unknowingly. I am also thankful that You gave me ideas in my mind all the time to document and record my life, so that I can look back and thank You for Your Goodness. In Your name and Will. Amen.
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Thank you for letting me look at my past and learn the lessons. Ups and Downs are always at the door Lord. Thank you for the obstacles and challenges. Don't let emotions take over me.
I am also thankful for letting me live life without fear and expectations of anyone. Dear Lord, I know people try to bring me down in their own way and expectations. You have brought enough examinations and challenges + circumstances in my life to train me for Your glory. Your name will be glorified in all ways. I hurt people in return knowingly and unknowingly. I am also thankful that You gave me ideas in my mind all the time to document and record my life, so that I can look back and thank You for Your Goodness. In Your name and Will. Amen.
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Thank you for letting me look at my past and learn the lessons. Ups and Downs are always at the door Lord. Thank you for the obstacles and challenges. Don't let emotions take over me.
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| Dec, 2016 Lesson |
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
The Red Shoes and what comes with it
Hans C. Anderson -- a Danish poet and author wrote The Red Shoes. I happened to read it in 8th grade when I didn't even know why would someone wear red shoes in the first place--- when they can wear black uniform shoes everyday. Ahhh little me and my innocent thinking when I was pure and decent.
Little did I know that it was only a decade and half later that I would wear and live The Red Shoes life myself. literally and figuratively 👦😑 such as follows.
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| The imaginary red |
The old beaten up crimson red
The Mexico city and Brazilian foot-ball red
The everyday PhD student life and ugly red
The lesson learned for me is life is short before I judge someone else. I need to look at my own The Red Shoes life style. Just like tiny habits can create a big domino effect in improving the overall life style for the betterment. Tiny red shoes behavior can disrupt the whole life purpose as well or maybe make it.
Respect to famous Danish Hans C. Anderson in front of The Little Mermaid in Copenhagen, Denmark.
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| circa 2013 There is so much Red Shoes Theme in Jai Wolf''s " Like it's Over" (below) which is on repeat for me for the last couple of hours. I like his instrumental theme and creativity |
Monday, May 28, 2018
The Power of Pulling from Both Sides
Failure and rejection is part and parcel of life. Everything has its own timing. My timing is not synchronized with your time and your timing is pre-mature than my timing. What people wanted from me long time ago, was a joke and manipulation. When I am ready then comes another allegation.
But still I write and express how to comprehend this for my own belief. The best way to keep the balance and stay align in life is to pull from opposite directions. On one side I am so ready and want this but the train has departed already. On the other hand, I am so thankful for what my worth is. Some people used me as an experimental / missionary project to feel highly of themselves by taking bet on a loser player because they wanted to show their own importance and empathetic skills. When they didn't get their own way, they tried to create havoc in their own way. Still I am calm and remember them as follows.
Exactly 5 years ago you made the whole house ready.
Helped me put out everything and fix all of it.
But still I write and express how to comprehend this for my own belief. The best way to keep the balance and stay align in life is to pull from opposite directions. On one side I am so ready and want this but the train has departed already. On the other hand, I am so thankful for what my worth is. Some people used me as an experimental / missionary project to feel highly of themselves by taking bet on a loser player because they wanted to show their own importance and empathetic skills. When they didn't get their own way, they tried to create havoc in their own way. Still I am calm and remember them as follows.
One Side: The Blinds Need Renewal
Exactly 5 years ago you made the whole house ready.
Helped me put out everything and fix all of it.
Now the house is here but the boss of the house is gone.
Things have been down the hill. I didn't always want this nor did you.
I wanted a better future together. I did wrong and made mistakes.
Time has gone by but these words and notes are a reminder for me for regrets I narrate.
I took everything for granted and never did future pacing to realize how it would be without you.
Life is still the same but you are gone.
Other Side:
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| It takes courage to express your feelings and give them words |
That's the power of pulling from the opposite direction. In between them is where I find my existence. Some people can manipulate you to get what they want while others just narrate what they feel. The power lies in pulling from the opposite directions. Some call it narcissism because that's all they can think of while in reality they know it is called confidence.
Moving is Living
It's one of those days when you hear that you have to move again. I am not surprised because 'moving is living'
If I look back 15 years ago in my life. The whole baggage can be summarized into a handful of things and my cubicle in D-hall.
These things were enough for me to handle. As we grow more in life the burden and baggage keeps on increasing day by day .... minute by minute. If it's only physical baggage then it's normal but the challenge is..... its emotional and mental baggage as well.
If I summarize my physical baggage in the last 3 years it would be like this below.
It's one of those days when you get a little misty and move on.
However I want my life to be reduced to a suit case, so that I can pack it up and move on to where-ever the big waves of life take me instantly. But even though I have been living out of a suite case for a while, it is still disruptive and feels like a burden.
They say the state of someone's habitat and where they live can tell a lot about their state of mind and what's going on in their life.
How is the state of my life and things in my life? Take a look below.
Apparently things in my life are not straight enough. The haphazardness of things thrown around in my life depict their effect in one way or the other. :|
It's not the physical baggage which is burdensome. It's the emotional baggage which grips the whole brain and paralyze my mental operating system.
The famous dialogue from Up in the Air says it all.
" Make no mistakes your relationships are the heaviest components in your life..... all those negotiations and arguments, secrets and compromise..... "
I feel living in 1st world for so long have made me put on the shackles of playing the victim card and becoming soft mentally. Rather than doing the real work and making the differences, which is ought to be the purpose of my life, I am making excuses. I am Saying No More to being soft and moving ahead to whatever it takes. Amen
If I look back 15 years ago in my life. The whole baggage can be summarized into a handful of things and my cubicle in D-hall.
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| Circa 2005 |
These things were enough for me to handle. As we grow more in life the burden and baggage keeps on increasing day by day .... minute by minute. If it's only physical baggage then it's normal but the challenge is..... its emotional and mental baggage as well.
If I summarize my physical baggage in the last 3 years it would be like this below.
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| Reduce it into a suite case please |
It's one of those days when you get a little misty and move on.
However I want my life to be reduced to a suit case, so that I can pack it up and move on to where-ever the big waves of life take me instantly. But even though I have been living out of a suite case for a while, it is still disruptive and feels like a burden.
They say the state of someone's habitat and where they live can tell a lot about their state of mind and what's going on in their life.
How is the state of my life and things in my life? Take a look below.
Apparently things in my life are not straight enough. The haphazardness of things thrown around in my life depict their effect in one way or the other. :|
It's not the physical baggage which is burdensome. It's the emotional baggage which grips the whole brain and paralyze my mental operating system.
The famous dialogue from Up in the Air says it all.
" Make no mistakes your relationships are the heaviest components in your life..... all those negotiations and arguments, secrets and compromise..... "
I feel living in 1st world for so long have made me put on the shackles of playing the victim card and becoming soft mentally. Rather than doing the real work and making the differences, which is ought to be the purpose of my life, I am making excuses. I am Saying No More to being soft and moving ahead to whatever it takes. Amen
Sunday, May 27, 2018
Define What Masculinity means?
Today I learned how do we define masculinity?
Personally I never thought about it in different contexts.
However, I heard different " It could be working out, could be making money, being successful in relationships, dressing better, it could be writing amazing poetry. The person decides himself "
The question and answer is, " Think about your role models. Who are they? "
I think it was very powerful observation. Who are my role models? Who do I follow. How does a child decides which role models to follow? Obviously influenced by the elders. What if the scenario is blind leading the blind..... then we all are doomed.
The answer is clear we don't think critically enough while choosing who do we follow and how do we teach others....
Personally I never thought about it in different contexts.
However, I heard different " It could be working out, could be making money, being successful in relationships, dressing better, it could be writing amazing poetry. The person decides himself "
The question and answer is, " Think about your role models. Who are they? "
I think it was very powerful observation. Who are my role models? Who do I follow. How does a child decides which role models to follow? Obviously influenced by the elders. What if the scenario is blind leading the blind..... then we all are doomed.
The answer is clear we don't think critically enough while choosing who do we follow and how do we teach others....
Saturday, May 26, 2018
Re: I have learned to laugh at myself
Behavior change does not happen overnight. If it happens overnight then the change will last only another night which is not a change in the first place. Over the years, I have learned that it's okay to laugh at myself. I can make a joke of myself or be a joke for someone, its okay. I don't need to care what people think of me or about me. Everyone has something to say and everyone has a Damn opinion about you. That's okay that's what humans do anyways.
I have learned to face whatever future brings and still be happy and laugh at myself either it works in my favor or work for the happiness of others. Life is a trade-off.
10 Years ago I would not have been able to say the same. These past 10 years and the learning are my intervention. I am thankful for the experiences.
The day I decided not to make any excuses about whatever life throws at me, that very moment winning became a guarantee. The Almighty wants you, me and everyone of us to win.
Sometimes life brings certain people in our lives to teach us special lessons so that we can learn from them and have better quality of life with a purpose. Even if they leave, they teach us certain impulsive behaviors, prepare us to say what's is in our heart no matter what ( even though it's not always the right approach ) and they teach us to be a better leader and executor irrespective of the circumstances.
I have spent 1/3 of my life on this planet Earth in North America. After spending a decade specially in the Southern part of the continent. In addition to not only experiencing and learning the 'Y'all hospitality' I have learned to appreciate the simple living of a southerner gentleman at the same time. No matter wherever I move next in the world, if I have to take something back with me in addition to the values and right to protect myself. I want to take back western spirit of ambition and hustle as well.
I know as a human my life is limited on this planet and my journey lies ahead. I have decided to document my limited journey as well.
I document my micro struggles and mistakes. I document my momentarily thoughts and ideas so that if I live a little longer I can look back and appreciate what life offered me in the past, what did I make out of it and what is waiting for me in future.
Time is a vapor and always fleeting. I know my life is different every next moment. It is different now and it will be different in a couple of weeks from now on-wards.
Once I know I can laugh at myself and I am the master of my own happiness. I document and share and say what I want my life to be.
This little practice has helped me shape and curate the stories out of my life. Sometimes even I don't know what's on my mind until I realize and see my micro-struggles and cravings. Thank you ' Laugh at yourself' habit.
Self reflection takes place best for me when I speak and express my actions and ambitions through words. I am glad to have found people around me in recent years who listen to me patiently and support me even though sometimes I am not the best speaker or the most pleasant person to be around. It helps me realize my priorities and keeps me on track.
I try to record my moments so that I can co-relate with other fleeting moments of the past or coming in future. This mini-video documentation was done for myself so that I can see who I was, who I am becoming and what I am doing which I should not do. Nothing big happened on this day other than the validation in my brain and mindset off-load took place, so that I can keep the right tools in my brain from now on and do what I like to do rather than what is required of me to do.
My kinkiness for western boots becomes evident in this video and I didn't even know that. I decided to take a special trip from school to store while changing other plans. Now this is what I call impulsiveness. I needed this to get it out of my system.
Even though I act nervous but this is the thrill of doing whatever you want to do with your life.
The final result of the purchase is evident in the image below and I am glad I did go out of my way to find these spiffy tan colored boots. They have already earned thousands of air miles with me while my journey continues across North America.
In the recent past I have had certain micro-moments which have revealed to my, my own behavior. Looking back I am glad I took those actions and initiatives. It's better to close the loop and laugh at your own mistakes and failures.
At the end of the day it's my life and I chose to live it the way I learned or try to live it with a purpose which will minimize the regret in me rather getting ignored on account of other people's expectation.
As famously said, " The world wants you to be vanilla, the moment you conform they abandon you" Sethi.
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| Learning to laugh at yourself starts with a gif |
I have learned to face whatever future brings and still be happy and laugh at myself either it works in my favor or work for the happiness of others. Life is a trade-off.
10 Years ago I would not have been able to say the same. These past 10 years and the learning are my intervention. I am thankful for the experiences.
The day I decided not to make any excuses about whatever life throws at me, that very moment winning became a guarantee. The Almighty wants you, me and everyone of us to win.
Sometimes life brings certain people in our lives to teach us special lessons so that we can learn from them and have better quality of life with a purpose. Even if they leave, they teach us certain impulsive behaviors, prepare us to say what's is in our heart no matter what ( even though it's not always the right approach ) and they teach us to be a better leader and executor irrespective of the circumstances.
I have spent 1/3 of my life on this planet Earth in North America. After spending a decade specially in the Southern part of the continent. In addition to not only experiencing and learning the 'Y'all hospitality' I have learned to appreciate the simple living of a southerner gentleman at the same time. No matter wherever I move next in the world, if I have to take something back with me in addition to the values and right to protect myself. I want to take back western spirit of ambition and hustle as well.
I know as a human my life is limited on this planet and my journey lies ahead. I have decided to document my limited journey as well.
I document my micro struggles and mistakes. I document my momentarily thoughts and ideas so that if I live a little longer I can look back and appreciate what life offered me in the past, what did I make out of it and what is waiting for me in future.
Time is a vapor and always fleeting. I know my life is different every next moment. It is different now and it will be different in a couple of weeks from now on-wards.
Once I know I can laugh at myself and I am the master of my own happiness. I document and share and say what I want my life to be.
This little practice has helped me shape and curate the stories out of my life. Sometimes even I don't know what's on my mind until I realize and see my micro-struggles and cravings. Thank you ' Laugh at yourself' habit.
April 25, 2018 Middle of the Night Micro Journey
Self reflection takes place best for me when I speak and express my actions and ambitions through words. I am glad to have found people around me in recent years who listen to me patiently and support me even though sometimes I am not the best speaker or the most pleasant person to be around. It helps me realize my priorities and keeps me on track.
April 27, 2018: Part 1/4: ( Selected Micro-document Video)
I try to record my moments so that I can co-relate with other fleeting moments of the past or coming in future. This mini-video documentation was done for myself so that I can see who I was, who I am becoming and what I am doing which I should not do. Nothing big happened on this day other than the validation in my brain and mindset off-load took place, so that I can keep the right tools in my brain from now on and do what I like to do rather than what is required of me to do.
April 27, 2018: Part 2/4 ( Appreciate Western Boots)
My kinkiness for western boots becomes evident in this video and I didn't even know that. I decided to take a special trip from school to store while changing other plans. Now this is what I call impulsiveness. I needed this to get it out of my system.
April 27, 2018: Part 3/4 ( In Store Nervousness)
Even though I act nervous but this is the thrill of doing whatever you want to do with your life.
April 27, 2018: Part 4/4: (Post-Purchase Guilt or Denial)
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| Hello bad-ass ostrich leather |
Another micro-documentary from October 2017
In the recent past I have had certain micro-moments which have revealed to my, my own behavior. Looking back I am glad I took those actions and initiatives. It's better to close the loop and laugh at your own mistakes and failures.
At the end of the day it's my life and I chose to live it the way I learned or try to live it with a purpose which will minimize the regret in me rather getting ignored on account of other people's expectation.
As famously said, " The world wants you to be vanilla, the moment you conform they abandon you" Sethi.
Friday, May 25, 2018
Re: The Bench and it's Past
If a bench has to write it's autobiography...what would it be?
Would the bench explain how many tired legs and exhausted bodies it helped to recover and recharge so that they can continue their life journey after having a quick rest on its strong iron supports? OR
Would the bench say how many broken hearts and strangers it helped to come closer and closer in real live?
Conventionally in popular culture benches are shown as a symbol of union, socializing and time to relax. If you don't believe me...then...well let's take a look at the famous bench from the very infamous movie ( at least for me) 'Notting Hill'
Take a look below.
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| When you say nothing at all |
The bench from Notting Hill is so famous it is a treasure now. I am not surprised though.
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| For June who loved this garden. From Joseph who always sat beside her |
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| Life is like a box of chocolates.... |
I happened to experience a similar bench in 2008. It was a stimulating experience that I captured the bench and its memories well as shown below.
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| Captured on a random evening in 2008 |
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| Captured on a random day in 2008 |
10 YEARS LATER
This afternoon I happened to pass by the same route. Unaware, I realized lives have changed but the bench has remained the same. In fact with time, the bench has gotten old as well and grew some COMET scars and it has been push back in location and its surroundings have changed a little.
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| Happy 10th birthday Mr. Bench |
I wondered how many lives this bench served over a decade or am I the only one who found it to be special?
I sat on the bench to do some self reflection and felt happy experiencing the comfort provided by the same bench even after a decade. I decided to capture it on my camera.
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| First Micro-Expression in Transition |
After a couple of minutes truth hit hard on me and my expressions changed.
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| Steady-state normal expression synchronizing with bench details |
At the end I realized the bench is the same, I am the same person but my perspectives have changed.
The physical presence of objects around us may be a good reminder of the past but it also reminds us to be cognizant of where we come from and where are we going.
Bench was the same, nothing has changed other than the fleeting moments of time which are captured in memories and erased from reality.
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