The value of someone in your eyes and mind decreases exponentially when they do something which they have been claiming that they will never do or they don't this or do that and years down they do the same thing. But it is agitating when they manipulate you with their own behavior. I am no saint nor I have claimed to be one, however people who have been pointing fingers at me....smh.
When they come into a situation like this, they also do what an average mind and an average person does. This is simple mathematics and its specialized branch of statistics. More specifically Gaussian curve. Some people think they are special and act as one, but when times get tough and tough gets going they give in and act like any other average Joe, Suzi, Tom, Harry, Sally..... you name it.
Everyone is after their own interest first. If they are not, then they are not normal according to social standards and there are so many biases and so many underlying social, financial and verbal commitments people make that they start to find them-self entangled in them day by day, night by night.
My personal experience is the more I increase my portfolio and increase in financial independence day by day...the more it hits on me the perspective of an average person ( not that I am on top of the world but still not in the middle of the curve). There is a game being played around them.
They think they are doing something for the betterment of themselves and their lives, but indirectly they are doing it for their boss(es) day in day out.
In the last 10 years what I saw in US culture is that people get mortgage payments, they feel happy momentarily, then it pile up with car payments and bills and then day in day out is what they live for and they don't feel it because every other Dick and Harry is doing the same---their next door neighbor including me. So 20 years ago, what they really thought and said to themselves as kids that this is what they will do when they grow up...they never get back to do it... simply behind the given excuse of every day survival.
Secondly the culture of having a pet in US and first world countries in general is widespread and appreciated. Nothing wrong with that however I feel the reason people are okay and happy with having a pet is because pets cannot talk back. Pets cannot speak against their masters and owners. They do not speak the human language, because if having a relationship with another human was that easy like having a pet. Everyone would have fun and have fun. There won't be so many empty houses and 1 bedroom apartments every other corner. Going Solo and it's rise in US is the topic of discussion for some other time.
They issue is humans can point out the faults and shortcomings in other humans and no one likes to be told of their shortcomings on their face, whereas dogs, cats and pets cannot do so to their owners.
If two humans are together there will be arguments, there will be disputes there will be times of conflict.
I found something very powerful tonight
" Arguments are to relationships what bugs are to the great outdoors. The two don't exist without each other. If you go outside, expect some bugs. If you love someone, expect some conflict. The belief that " if you really love each other, you won't fight " is a lie that sets you up for relational disaster. Kind of like me sitting on my porch and expecting no mosquito bites---- it just ain't gonna happen, honey. It's like wanting to enjoy the benefit of good communication without ever having to navigate the difficulties. Like expecting you'll get along with your spouse without ever working at it. The idea of conflict-free communication with your spouse is extremely unrealistic. So what's the answer? Find a healthy way to handle the conflicts. "
Sometimes you get thoughts and words in your own mind already. But when you read it elsewhere it resonates with you. Now my time to get off the soapbox.
When they come into a situation like this, they also do what an average mind and an average person does. This is simple mathematics and its specialized branch of statistics. More specifically Gaussian curve. Some people think they are special and act as one, but when times get tough and tough gets going they give in and act like any other average Joe, Suzi, Tom, Harry, Sally..... you name it.
Everyone is after their own interest first. If they are not, then they are not normal according to social standards and there are so many biases and so many underlying social, financial and verbal commitments people make that they start to find them-self entangled in them day by day, night by night.
My personal experience is the more I increase my portfolio and increase in financial independence day by day...the more it hits on me the perspective of an average person ( not that I am on top of the world but still not in the middle of the curve). There is a game being played around them.
They think they are doing something for the betterment of themselves and their lives, but indirectly they are doing it for their boss(es) day in day out.
In the last 10 years what I saw in US culture is that people get mortgage payments, they feel happy momentarily, then it pile up with car payments and bills and then day in day out is what they live for and they don't feel it because every other Dick and Harry is doing the same---their next door neighbor including me. So 20 years ago, what they really thought and said to themselves as kids that this is what they will do when they grow up...they never get back to do it... simply behind the given excuse of every day survival.
Secondly the culture of having a pet in US and first world countries in general is widespread and appreciated. Nothing wrong with that however I feel the reason people are okay and happy with having a pet is because pets cannot talk back. Pets cannot speak against their masters and owners. They do not speak the human language, because if having a relationship with another human was that easy like having a pet. Everyone would have fun and have fun. There won't be so many empty houses and 1 bedroom apartments every other corner. Going Solo and it's rise in US is the topic of discussion for some other time.
They issue is humans can point out the faults and shortcomings in other humans and no one likes to be told of their shortcomings on their face, whereas dogs, cats and pets cannot do so to their owners.
If two humans are together there will be arguments, there will be disputes there will be times of conflict.
I found something very powerful tonight
" Arguments are to relationships what bugs are to the great outdoors. The two don't exist without each other. If you go outside, expect some bugs. If you love someone, expect some conflict. The belief that " if you really love each other, you won't fight " is a lie that sets you up for relational disaster. Kind of like me sitting on my porch and expecting no mosquito bites---- it just ain't gonna happen, honey. It's like wanting to enjoy the benefit of good communication without ever having to navigate the difficulties. Like expecting you'll get along with your spouse without ever working at it. The idea of conflict-free communication with your spouse is extremely unrealistic. So what's the answer? Find a healthy way to handle the conflicts. "
Sometimes you get thoughts and words in your own mind already. But when you read it elsewhere it resonates with you. Now my time to get off the soapbox.
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