I remember the psychology lessons as a 9th grader on my way to coaching classes. We used to debate a lot about behavior and what will be the response of the opposite party.
Until one day we did meet a psychologist (he was a student though, but studied it more than us) who explained the gender bias and differences among men and women when it comes to relationships and the approach of two genders towards it.
Oh Boy, have I not seen it working for me for the last 12 years.. it sure is.
I have seen it happen in 2005,2006, on and on year after year and the pattern continues. Subconsciously, I realized from Day 1 when the trap was being placed. Usually we are not allowed to call out on people when they are doing so..... but just observe.
The gender pattern of using opportunistic approach is clear. Some people want to show only a selective group set about certain parts of their life and feel better and want to exclude the other group.
Email marketing, Facebook, Watsapp, Instagram ...you name it. The results are clear and I love the technology side of it. How we use the tech side of it while at the same time consumers even though they are aware...they spill their real subconscious behavior while using it..including myself.
Example #1:
I see people coming on to my shop, gathering all the knowledge and information silently for free. When it comes to making a purchase, they run away which is fine. However, if there is a mistake in the knowledge you are providing , they will be the first one to raise their hand, point fingers towards your credibility. However, when called upon their level of commitment, they act as if they are the most deserving and most well wishing prospective clients. :D
Example #2:
I remember the phone call waiting feature a lot people used in late 2000s, to do multi-tasking and being on other calls while others can wait or run multiple affairs on the side. When called out on it...again the same defensive story.
Example #3:
Watsapp status update and the likes. Sending a lame message to confirm if the other recipient can see it or not. If they can see it and delivered. Then make sure to block them so that they cannot see status update. That is pretty gory manipulative mindset. I have seen this coming more from girls than guys. Even the girls I thought consider them-self upfront and honest and do not care. The reality is at the end of the day...everyone cares and everyone is trying to keep their boat afloat to get their dream of becoming a mom one day real ..whatever it costs....<---- hint="" nbsp="" p="">
So How does all of that relate to my lessons from 9th grade? The lessons are as follows:
1- When you see this pattern happening run away as fast as you can from the person who is doing this because they are going to repeat the same thing in your face. While they will call them-self a saint and point fingers at you. It shows the basic lesson from 9th grade discussion. Do not Trust because it is ingrained in the nature of that specific individual.
2- Age old wisdom speaks from experience. When a 99+ years old person can tell you something about you and the other person -------right after meeting both of you for short 25 minutes. You should give them weight for their experience in life and wisdom. It will seem as contradictory opinion to what you want to happen but hey denial is also part of learning something about yourself later on :)
3- Give thanks to what you have become and strive towards the goal of where you want to be.
All the above observations and conclusions were a myth 15 years ago. Thanks to technology it helps us evaluate the true nature of us humans and exposes us.
Until one day we did meet a psychologist (he was a student though, but studied it more than us) who explained the gender bias and differences among men and women when it comes to relationships and the approach of two genders towards it.
Oh Boy, have I not seen it working for me for the last 12 years.. it sure is.
I have seen it happen in 2005,2006, on and on year after year and the pattern continues. Subconsciously, I realized from Day 1 when the trap was being placed. Usually we are not allowed to call out on people when they are doing so..... but just observe.
The gender pattern of using opportunistic approach is clear. Some people want to show only a selective group set about certain parts of their life and feel better and want to exclude the other group.
Email marketing, Facebook, Watsapp, Instagram ...you name it. The results are clear and I love the technology side of it. How we use the tech side of it while at the same time consumers even though they are aware...they spill their real subconscious behavior while using it..including myself.
Example #1:
I see people coming on to my shop, gathering all the knowledge and information silently for free. When it comes to making a purchase, they run away which is fine. However, if there is a mistake in the knowledge you are providing , they will be the first one to raise their hand, point fingers towards your credibility. However, when called upon their level of commitment, they act as if they are the most deserving and most well wishing prospective clients. :D
Example #2:
I remember the phone call waiting feature a lot people used in late 2000s, to do multi-tasking and being on other calls while others can wait or run multiple affairs on the side. When called out on it...again the same defensive story.
Example #3:
Watsapp status update and the likes. Sending a lame message to confirm if the other recipient can see it or not. If they can see it and delivered. Then make sure to block them so that they cannot see status update. That is pretty gory manipulative mindset. I have seen this coming more from girls than guys. Even the girls I thought consider them-self upfront and honest and do not care. The reality is at the end of the day...everyone cares and everyone is trying to keep their boat afloat to get their dream of becoming a mom one day real ..whatever it costs....<---- hint="" nbsp="" p="">
So How does all of that relate to my lessons from 9th grade? The lessons are as follows:
1- When you see this pattern happening run away as fast as you can from the person who is doing this because they are going to repeat the same thing in your face. While they will call them-self a saint and point fingers at you. It shows the basic lesson from 9th grade discussion. Do not Trust because it is ingrained in the nature of that specific individual.
2- Age old wisdom speaks from experience. When a 99+ years old person can tell you something about you and the other person -------right after meeting both of you for short 25 minutes. You should give them weight for their experience in life and wisdom. It will seem as contradictory opinion to what you want to happen but hey denial is also part of learning something about yourself later on :)
3- Give thanks to what you have become and strive towards the goal of where you want to be.
All the above observations and conclusions were a myth 15 years ago. Thanks to technology it helps us evaluate the true nature of us humans and exposes us.
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